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Navigating a relationship can sometimes feel like driving to an unknown destination without a GPS: perplexing, frustrating, and even scary. And while you don’t want to take the mystery out of your romantic life entirely, learning important facts about what makes unions tick (and tank) can help you avoid trouble.

Experts analyzed recent dating trends to define a whole new set of relationship rules to guide you along. Some of them may indicate that your romance is on rocky ground, while others can prove it’s totally rock solid.

1. Spending time apart strengthens your bond. Sure, it’s important to hang out with your guy. But experts now know that it’s almost as important not to hang out with him every so often. "When you take time away from each other, it gives you both the opportunity to collect new thoughts, new stories, and new ideas to share," says Jennifer Oikle, PhD, dating coach for Coupling Connection. But the benefits extend beyond having novel tidbits of conversation. "When you’re with someone in the moment, you’re not really spending time thinking about them," says Debbie Magids, PhD, coauthor of "All the Good Ones Aren’t Taken." "When you’re distanced, you really think about the person and yearn for them, and you look forward to seeing them again."

2. Your inkling that something is wrong in the relationship is probably right. By nature of being a woman, you have a keen intuition, so you’ll feel any kind of distancing on a visceral level pretty quickly. And unless you’re an overly suspicious or insecure person — you know who you are! — you should always trust your gut. Example: He’s incommunicado. Before the days of emailing, texting, IMing, and Facebooking, if you didn’t hear from your boyfriend for a day or two, it wasn’t the end of the world (or your relationship). But now that communication is so easy and instant, it’s usually a sign he’s not fully invested.

"When a guy wants to break up, he’ll often start to create space," says Oikle. In other words, he’ll stop calling quite as much, it will take him a bit longer to return your texts or emails, and he’ll sometimes be "too busy" to hang out. "For the record, if a guy is into you, he’ll never be too busy," says Paul Coleman, PsyD, author of "The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Intimacy."
If the pattern continues, confront your man about his behavior in a direct yet nonaccusatory way, saying something like "You haven’t called me, and I’m thinking that means you’re having second thoughts about us." If he doesn’t give you a clear answer, well, let’s just say he’s giving you a clear answer.

3. If a man has a history of cheating on his girlfriends, he’ll probably cheat on you too. Sometimes a guy cheats on his partner because there is an emotional or physical void in the relationship. But more often than not, philandering is indicative of something wrong with him. According to Jay Carter, PsyD, author of "Nasty Men," many guys two-time because they love the thrill of the chase, they need to feed their ego, or they have a hard time turning down a woman when the opportunity presents itself.
All those factors contribute to serial straying, "which is why men who cheat once usually cheat again," says Oikle. (A recent MSNBC.com survey found that men are twice as likely as women are to cheat more than once.) So if your guy cheated on his last girlfriend with you, don’t necessarily write it off as an isolated incident.

4. He wants to think he’s taking care of you. Despite the fact that many women are outpacing men on the college level and in the workplace, "lots of guys still derive their feelings of masculinity and self-worth by being of value to the person they love," says Allen Berger, PhD, author of "Love Secrets Revealed." "And they feel most valuable when they’re doing things for that person." So even though you’re an independent chick who can support herself, it may benefit your relationship if you step back once in a while and let him step up — even if it’s just to do something as simple as pay for dinner. Think of it this way: Letting him care for you shows you care for him.

5. If a guy tells you that he’s not ready for a relationship, take his word for it. Believe it or not, men really hate to disappoint women. So if he’s "gotten up the guts to actually cross the threshold and tell you that he’s not ready for a relationship, he means business," says Oikle. There could be a variety of explanations for his antirelationship position (he has commitment issues, he wants to meet other people, he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material), but in the end, the result is the same: He’s doesn’t desire to be your boyfriend. End of story.

And no, he won’t change his mind when he gets to know you a little better. "Once a guy decides how he sees a girl in his life, it’s hard to break out of that thinking," says Coleman. Warning: If you stick around after he’s told you this, he will likely take it as a sign that you’re cool with the casual, nonexclusive nature of your relationship. So make sure you are.

6. Passion can grow as a relationship progresses. People used to think settling down meant saying goodbye to romance and passion. But research has found that young married couples are more satisfied in the romance department than their single counterparts are. Familiarity definitely has its perks. Couples who have been together for a long time have probably learned how to please each other and are more comfortable sharing their fantasies and desires to keep the romance alive.

7. You won’t regret breaking up with a guy you’re feeling unsure about. Nowadays, women may be impulsive about dating guys but not dumping them. "In fact, a lot of single women will try really hard to fit a square peg into a round hole because they want the relationship to work so bad," explains Magids. "It’s only after a tremendous amount of thought and effort that they finally give up on it."
In part, women go through that painstaking process because they fear they’ll end up kicking themselves for ending a relationship too soon. But a new study from Northwestern University found that even in the short term, people aren’t as upset as they thought they’d be after a breakup. So if you sense you’re with the wrong person, don’t fret so much about walking away to find a better mate.

8. You will always be the one to initiate a relationship talk. Unlike women, who are conditioned to take the pulse of a relationship from time to time, men don’t contemplate the state of your union until something’s wrong. And even then, they want to work it out in their mind, whereas women want to talk it out.
When you go to initiate a relationship talk, bear in mind that men are uncomfortable with the unknown and paranoid that you’ll end up in tears. So don’t ambush him or it’ll feel to him like going to the principal’s office or being pulled over by a cop: surprising and nerve-racking, says Coleman.

To put him at ease, try what Oikle calls a compliment sandwich: Start with something positive, work in the concern, and end with something positive. For example, if you’re trying to gauge if a new guy sees your relationship as serious, say, "I really like you a lot. Are you thinking this is a long-term thing? We’ve been having so much fun that I hope you do!" That will be much easier for him to digest than "Hey, am I your girlfriend or what?" Or if you want to broach the subject of moving in with a dude you’ve been dating for a while, try "I think we have an amazing relationship, and I’m ready to take the next step and move in together. Think of how much fun we’d have living under the same roof!"

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 We all are experiencing a tougher time now. Everything is needed to be brought; everything is needed to be paid. And the most hassle thing is almost everything is having a high price. These items range from clothes we are wearing, appliances we are using, common necessities in the our household such as groceries and stuffs, the car we are driving, the food we are eating and even the house we are living in. everything as in everything has a corresponding price and it is needed to be paid with the corresponding amount.

Everyone is so busy working for the things he/she wants to acquire. Nothing comes free and so we really must work hard for us to achieve it. If we want to feel and try all the luxuries in life, we must work hard for it also.

Here comes the deal. Sometimes we can’t pay for what we want in cash so we resort to having loans or paying for the stuffs we need through installments. Sometimes, wanting to have these luxuries isn’t easy. It is ok from the start but when time comes and continue to go by, we have a different view. The things which we thought is nice become a burden all of a sudden. What I mean through this are the credits that come along with these luxuries. We are starting to be hassled by all the monthly dues, with all the loans that must be paid and with all the debts that needs to be settled. Good thing there is such a thing as free credit report. This will give you your latest credit score. This will help you improve credit. It will also help you lower you to lower your monthly bills and your bills will be grouped so that you will only pay one easy payment for all your bills.

 

Los Angeles (E! Online) – Shut the front door!

USA Today is reporting that Patrick Dempsey is hinting at a hitchin’ to Meredith (Ellen Pompeo). He told a reporter Monday night "there may be" wedding bells in the future for Meredith and Derek on Grey’s Anatomy. "Rumor has it something might be happening," he said. "I think they have to. It’s time for them to get together!"

That may very well be the case (depending on which impassioned fan you ask), but is a wedding really going down?

Luckily for you, I have reliable inside sources who just gave me the inside scoop…

"We haven’t shot anything related to any kind of engagement or wedding," a source on set whispers. "And I haven’t seen anything in a script."

Well, hmph! Thanks so much, Mr. Sexy Hair, for getting our hopes up!

Of course, the nuptials could very well happen further down the road, and it certainly seems obvious that Meredith and Derek would end up happily (married) ever after at some point, but my guess is that will be a wee bit closer to the end of the series.

So perhaps Patrick is just putting his own plea out there to end the Mer-Der yo-yo games? Could be.

In the meantime, though, sources also tell me that as far as they know, there are no current plans to build a dream-house set for Meredith and Derek. So again, that may happen sometime in the future (end of the season?), but not right now.

What do you think of a Mer-Der wedding? Too soon, or should they just tie the knot already?

People as we are, we are fond of buying things. Things like clothes, cell phones, appliances, cars, computers and others. Anything that we fancy we buy. And we tend to just swipe our way through our credit cards in buying our very own wants and needs. We tend to just whisk off the fact that we are nearing our credit limits. But who cares right? As long as we have the job to sustain our every need then I think that there is nothing wrong with it.

We use our credit cards to pay for our debts and bills. And we also use it to pay for the things we need. We also tend to pay our bills on divided payments since not all of us are rich people who can afford to buy and pay for the whole price of the things we want to acquire. And sometimes too, we already forget that we have something to pay for this month or for this day. We are too busy that we forget our dues and this leads to something serious.

Thanks to the Internet because now, we can already view our credits online. There is such a thing as totally free credit report. You can already view your own credit lines so that you will know that you have a coming payment to pay for. There is also what we call as equifax beacon score. Through this totally free credit report, even if you forget that you have a coming payment; it will serve as a reminder that you are to pay for something already. government free credit report is a very helpful tool. It helps you to be updated with all your credit reports. Isn’t that great guys? We have this helpful tool for us as reminders that we are to pay for a coming debt.

NEW YORK - Janet Jackson is returning to her "Rock Witchu" tour and — finally — revealing the mystery illness that led her to cancel a string of concerts.

Following two weeks of scrapped shows, Jackson was scheduled to resume her tour Wednesday night at the Verizon Center in Washington after a bout of migraine-associated vertigo. She is being treated for the illness, which is characterized by dizziness, imbalance and other symptoms.

"She’s a world-class entertainer and needs to be at the top of her game to give her fans the show they expect," Jackson’s manager, Kenneth Crear, said in a statement. "She’s feeling much better and is ready to hit the road again to finish the tour."

Upcoming stops include Atlanta, Houston, Dallas, New York and East Rutherford, N.J.

Jackson, 42, will announce new dates for concerts she postponed in Montreal; Boston; Philadelphia; Greensboro, N.C.; Fort Lauderdale, Fla.; and Uncasville, Conn.

I have always wondered how it is to be rich. To have everything you have to buy for the stuffs you want, eat the food you have been craving for, travel to places you have never been to and be able to meet people of great importance and caliber. Really, I believe that as much as love makes the world go round, here’s the catch: money does too! As a child, the very favorite topic I and my cousins have was what to buy and what to do if we have a million bucks in our pockets. I would close my eyes right there and then and world imagine the things I will buy and do when I become part of the Nouveau Riche. First thing I will buy is my doll house complete with all the Barbie dolls I can take hold of, second is I will fill up our refrigerator with all the sweet goodies like ice cream and cake and third is I will buy my own pink bike, the remaining money will of course go to the bank. But those were the good ‘ol days, those wishes are just part of my childhood memories. I’ve grown up now and I have more sophisticated dreams. I only not dream of having a million in my bank account, but billions, tons and tons of money I mean!

One may ask, how has one become a Nouveau Riche? Maybe it is a legacy from his family or most probably, it is the fruits of his own labor. The number one most rich of all, as was listed in Fortune Magazine for the Year 1191, is SULTAN HAJI HASSANAL BOLKIAH MU’IZZADDIN WADDAULAH, 45 Bandar Seri Begawan BRUNEI. He accumulated his wealth through oil and gas reserves.

I can only imagine all the wealth these Nouveau Riche people possess. And I can’t help but dream that someday I will become one!

 

NEW YORK (Reuters) - Clint Eastwood spends more time behind the camera these days directing films. But anyone who believed him a few years ago when he said he had given up on acting, can think again. Clint has changed his mind.

The Academy Award-winning director, who was promoting his latest film "Changeling" at the New York Film Festival on Thursday, began acting more than 50 years ago and gained fame playing tough-minded cowboys and cops.

But in recent years, the 78 year-old Eastwood has perfected his skills as a director, winning Oscars for directing "Unforgiven" and "Million Dollar Baby" and earning nominations for "Mystic River" and "Letters from Iwo Jima."

Yet, Eastwood said that despite past declarations against returning to acting, if he likes a role, he will gladly act again. In fact, he has a new film, "Gran Torino," coming out in a couple of months in which he does just that.

"Since this picture (’Changeling’) was completed this year I have done another film in which I have performed, even though I said I wasn’t going to do that anymore," Eastwood told reporters.

"I think I started saying that back a few years ago, I said ‘I don’t think I’ll act anymore, I’ll stay behind the camera’" and then ‘Million Dollar Baby’ came along and I liked that role," he said. "Now I’ve done ‘Gran Torino’."

It is his first acting role since 2004’s "Million Dollar Baby," but the Hollywood veteran joked that after directing several young actors in "Changeling," maybe he should go ahead and quit acting — again.

"I’m always amazed at how good some of them are at such young ages because it took me forever to learn how to say my own name," he said.

"It’s a great thing, that’s one of the reasons why, in my senior years I do this sort of thing, I stay behind the camera and let the young people out there jump and run," he said.

"Changeling" is a gripping 1920s drama based on the true story of a woman whose search for her missing son forced her to confront the Los Angeles police and a serial child killer.

The film is due for release in the United States on October 31, after a world premiere at May’s Cannes film festival that drew mostly good reviews. The movie debuts at the start of Hollywood’s award season, and industry watchers are wondering if it will bring Oscar directing nomination No. 5 to Eastwood.

But if not, there’s always "Gran Torino," which Eastwood not only stars in, but directs. He portrays a Korean war veteran forced by his immigrant neighbors to confront his racial prejudices after his Gran Torino car is stolen.

That movie reaches theaters in December and for Oscar watchers who follow the race, Eastwood’s backers at Warner Bros. have a history releasing his movies late that month in time to qualify for the Oscar race.

Every month we receive different bills right on our very own doorstep. It’s a hassle right? We have to work to pay for these accumulated bills. It’s quite heavy in the pocket. But we have no other choice but to pay it because it is our monthly dues. To be able to continue the life we are accustomed to having, we have to pay these bills. They come so inconveniently because sometimes we have plans of spending our money in buying stuffs but ends up paying the bills instead.

Are you one of those who have experienced such a hassle in staying on top of your financial bills? Well listen up and just read because this just might be the answer to your problems. Have you ever heard of debt consolidation? It is a process of accumulating all of your monthly dues and making it into a low monthly payment. So instead of being hassled by 1 or more bills, consolidate debt will help you organize your bills into just a single one. So hassle no more right?

debt consolidation is of very great benefit to the consumers. There will be a debt consolidator assigned for you who will help you re-negotiate payments and dues with lenders on your behalf. Your debt consolidator will help you for you to have an affordable monthly payment. She will only ask you for the bill that you can afford and not request you to pay for something that is so way out of hand. Some of the benefits of debt settlement are: reduced interest rates, removing fees, lowering of your overall monthly payment, you as the consumer will be able to reduce balance transfer and once plan is active, collection calls will stop. Isn’t that just great? Have your bills consolidated now and be on top of your financial life again!

Destiny Number 1

A destiny number of 1 indicates that you are destined to a position of leadership. You can live up to this destiny by using your ability to think and act for yourself. By relying on your determination, independence and strength you will be able to make your own path in the world. You shouldn’t be afraid to stray from the safe path and try new things or new methods of approaching problems. If you rely on your creativity and strength of character you can have success in new endeavors while leading others to follow you there.

Destiny Number 2

People with a Destiny number of 2 are meant for positions of diplomacy and peacemaking. To move toward your destiny you can use your tact, power of persuasion and diplomatic skills to help others resolve differences. You may find great satisfaction and fulfillment in helping to resolve problems, even though it may not always be something that you are eager to do.

Destiny Number 3

A Destiny number of 3 shows that you are meant to utilize creativity and optimism in life. Part of your job in life is to help other people realize the power of joy, laughter, and imagination. By helping others who may have lost the joy of living learn to appreciate life and live it to its fullest (and most joyful) you will find your own joy and fulfillment. Expressing yourself creatively is key to making this happen.

Destiny Number 4

With a Destiny number of 4 the key to finding happiness will be found in organization, good management, and practicality. Finding order in your life and personal affairs and building things to last will help you to find fulfillment in life. By taking responsibility and allowing others to depend on you to be practical and get things done you will be working toward your destiny.

Destiny Number 5

With a Destiny Number of 5 you must represent freedom to find fulfillment. To live up to your destiny you must work to embrace change and not fear it or cling to the familiar in your life. It doesn’t mean rushing blindly into something new, however keeping yourself open to change and taking on new opportunities, challenges and adventures when they present themselves will lead to your ultimate happiness.

Destiny Number 6

The key to a Destiny number of 6 is to live your life as a humanitarian. Helping those who are weak, down on their luck or unhappy will help you to find happiness in your own life. You also should strive to beautify the world around you with artistic endeavors. While you should not completely sacrifice yourself to the service of others, helping those in need will open the door to beauty, love and harmony in your own life.

Destiny Number 7

A Destiny number of 7 means you will find fulfullment through teaching others. By pursuing an ongoing quest for knowledge and then sharing your findings with your fellow man…be it through teaching, writing or some other means…you will bring joy inot your own life. By following your destiny your life should be an interesting one full of the exploration of science, mysteries, the occult or other fascinating fields.

Destiny Number 8

A Destiny number of 8 opens the door for you to strive for accomplishment and success in your work and life. Setting goals and working dilligently toward them will reward you with many gains including authority, personal recognition and financial success. It is important that you do not set financial gain as your only goal in your endeavors in life, although you will likely find that with hard work that will be one of your rewards. Work instead for the sense of accomplishment of a job well done and for the simple love of doing what you do and happiness and success will likely follow.

Destiny Number 9

With a Destiny number of 9 you are meant to bring charity, beauty, art, romance and perfection into the world. By living a life filled with generosity, a kindness of spirit, compassion, forgiveness and understanding you will be rewarded with ultimate happiness and a wealth of gifts from life. You should live your life with the goal of making even the most ordinary things in life lovely and full of beauty.

There is a reason why you have your name and it’s not because it sounded classy in the gossip pages of the New York Post (which is where my mom found my name). Your birth name paired with numerology can enlighten you on what motivates you in life, what warrants your true expression, and the lasting impression you leave on others when you exit a room.

It started with Pythagoras, the Greek mathematician who invented the a2 + b2 = c2 Pythagorean Theorem, the only equation I remember from eleventh grade geometry. In 6th century BCE, Pythagoras combined mysticism with mathematics to construct a quotient about the future of one’s life. He coined it Pythagorean numerology and used numbers assigned to the letters in one’s full name (as well as using the numbers in one’s date of birth). The numerology determined what innate abilities one was given at birth to determine what might happen late in life, and it has become the source for modern numerology today.

How Numerology Works
When working with a name, numbers have corresponding letters. The numbers are added up and broken down into single digits in order to give you your final Destiny Number.

The Number Assignments

1= A, J, S

2= B, K, T

3= C, L, U

4= D, M, V

5= E, N, W

6= F, O, X

7= G, P, Y

8= H, Q, Z

9= I, R

How to Find Your Destiny Number

   1. Write down your full name (first, middle, and last). This is the name you were given at birth—not your married name, etc.
   2. Using the table above, write down the number matched to each letter in each name (i.e. AMANDA = 1, 4, 1, 5, 4, 1).
   3. Add the numbers together for each name (i.e. 1+4+1+5+4+1= 16).
   4. You will most likely get a double digit for each name; break down each double digit number you get by adding the first and second digit to get one number (i.e. from the 16 above, add together 1+6 to get 7, which is the number for my first name).

   5.  Add up the final numbers you get from each name (i.e. my middle name number is 8 and my last name number is 10, so 7+8+10 = 25).
   6. Once again, break down any double-digit numbers into one digit to get your final Destiny Number (i.e. from the 25 above, add together 2+5 to get 7, which is my final Destiny Number).

In numerology, the basic vibrations are numbers 1 through 9, but the numbers 11 and 22 are master numbers and should not be reduced to a single digit since these are master vibrations.

There are plenty of books and Web sites that will give you a thorough analysis of your Destiny Number, but here’s a basic rundown on what your Destiny Number means for you:

1 is determined, autonomous, and self-reliant

2 is loyal, tactful, and analytical

3 is passionate, positive, and fun-loving

4 is sensible, traditional, and serious

5 is bold, temperamental, and sensual

6 is responsible, cautious, and domestic

7 is spiritual, unconventional, and somewhat reclusive

8 is money-oriented, assured, and authoritative

9 is versatile, compassionate, and worldly

11 is enlightened, deep, and high-strung

22 is ambitious, a global planner, and motivated